Most girls who figure out they are lesbians later in life have a few jitters when they are facing their first sexual experience. As a coach, I regularly hear questions like, "What do I do?" and "How do I do it?" I also regularly hear comments like, "What if i am unable to delight her?" and "What if I hate it?" Please, relax! Remember, lesbian sex is, above all, FUN. There are some real positives about lesbian sex that actually can reduce strain, compared to hetero sex. * There are no Problems about getting pregnant. This is big.
No birth control, no "slipping up" and then having to attend on the fringe of your seat 3 weeks to work out if you have missed. Absolutely freeing. * Then there's the issue of orgasms.
Men have "one and done," so basically in hetero sex when he's's satisfied, the experience is over. Not so with lesbian sex. With multiple orgasm capacity it lasts while we need it to.
* Lesbian sex isn't vanilla. Simply by reason of the certain fact that it IS lesbian sex! It's imperative not to fall into a rut, though. Keep it clean. * Communication is easier, since you talk the same language. Males and females have different communication styles and this will end up in misunderstandings when it comes to sex. * Then naturally, the best advantage is that you are having sex with a woman, which naturally is what you've been wanting! Now, let's say you have been going out with a girl a number of times and you believe you are getting close. If the lady is also just coming out ( this regularly happens to mid-lifers ) there's infrequently less stress surrounding the loss of your lesbian virginity. You can learn together. While there are "how to" books available on the subject, you likely will just finish up doing what comes natural. I do commend the books as a cool way to open communication about the topic and perhaps expand your idea of what makes up sex and your exploration of each other. When the experience does occur, you will most likely find it a totally natural and great experience.
In spite of this some girls do describe their first time as strange. This is completely OK. You have been used to having hetero sex and this is something new. If the strange feeling continues, or you are feeling very uncomfortable or do not like lesbian sex, perhaps you must rethink your alignment. If you are stepping out with a girl that has experience, you can feel under more stress. So, why not let her take the lead? Again, relax. Do what comes natural. There are no right and wrong techniques to have sex. Hear your better half, not only what she's's asserting, but her soon...breathing, moans, sighs. It is feasible to punish her, but again, watch your better half's expressions, listen fastidiously and take your cues from that. Keep communicating, before, during and after sex. Sex is always a learning experience when you are with a new partner. So, fundamentally each time with someone new will be a first time. Each of you has different things that turn you on and you need to learn that about one another.
While you will have read books or heard others' experiences and you suspect you know what lesbian sex is, the reality is that there's a great deal of adaptation in sexual styles and needs among girls. Some women may need oral sex, others may think it is a turn-off, some ladies may like penetration, others don't , some girls may love their nipples touched and for others it may do nothing, or be upsetting. Even if your better half is experienced, it's still her first time with YOU, too.
Ensure she knows that you are a lesbian virgin. That'll be something she's's thinking about...making sure it's superb for you the first time. So, the field won't be as uneven as you could imagine. When having lesbian sex for the initial time, remember, there is not any right and wrong, just what you both like to do. There are few rules, just be natural and keep communicating - stay mindful of how she feels and tell her how you are feeling and what you like, too. Keep these things in mind and I'm sure of one thing - your very first time will actually not be your last!
